Sometimes, that’s the most mature, strategic and generous action we can take.
It’s not to be taken lightly or used unintentionally. However, in some cases it is the best thing we can do.
Taking a few deep breaths, leaving the situation for just five minutes, or even postponing our decision for a week.
When we feel particularly confused, angry, jealous, lost, hurt or afraid, we’re probably operating from what Carl Jung named a splintered personality, by which he was describing the effect of a complex which is at play at that moment. That’s probably not a helpful place from which to take any choice, and especially make an important decision.
In the long-term, we should aim to be aware of those conditions after they happen (it’s hard to be rational in the midst of them), and then find and integrate the lessons, for the time one of those situations comes again.
In the short-term, if something feels unusual, we should just wait for a bit.
Image used for the collage: Waiting for the train, Library of Congress, Prints & Photographs Division, [reproduction number, e.g., LC-USZ62-90145]